In the beginning, by remembering your partner, you will feel the loss even more intensely. You may experience a variety of painful feelings: anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow. Feeling these different painful emotions actually how we release an attachment. This pain is temporary>
To forgive is to release another from being responsible for how we feel. By finding forgiveness, we are the free to let go of our pain.
Forgiveness frees us from continuing to hold on to our pain. It frees us to let go of our heart. It frees us to feel better and to find love again
Women commonly use blaming statements to express their feelings. Instead of hearing their pain and being motivated to do something, men come defensive. Instead of feeling motivated, they may become even more resistant to change
At the end of a relationship there are only two directions we can go. We either grow in our ability to love, or we begin a gradual decline. Our challenge in starting over is to release our pain with forgiveness, understanding, gratitude, and trust.
When a relationship ends, it can only be rebuilt on a new foundation of understanding and forgiveness. As long as we are holding on to our hurt, then we have not fully forgiven our partner. When we continue to hurt, it can cause our partner to continue feeling guilt. Anything we say or do to make him feel guilty will only make it more difficult for him to find a desire to return.
When a relationship ends we must recognize that it’s over. Our ex-partner is no longer responsible for our pain. The injury has occurred, but now it’s up to us and not him to make things better. Yes, he may have caused our hurt, but now we are responsible for healing our feelings.
We can let go of our hurts by holding an attitude that we were victims, but that now we are not
Yes, I may have wasted time, but I have learned many valuable lessons. Now I can heal my broken heart and prepare myself to find true & lasting love